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Breaking Bad Habits — Creating Good Ones

Posted on: January 18, 2022

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It’s mid-January and statistics say that by now nearly half of us have broken our New Year’s resolutions. Really? What went wrong? Although many people might think it’s a matter of will power — or, more precisely, a lack of will power — the answer might be a bit more complicated than that. Writing for Healthline, Stacey McLachlan says that the problem is we’re not practicing self-directed neuroplasticity. Although the term sounds like a mouthful, it’s really based on common sense. “Self-directed neuroplasticity is when you intentionally rewire your brain to create positive habits,” says McLachlan. “People do this primarily through active reflection.”

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Have You Heard Of CBT?

Posted on: January 14, 2022

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CBT is “cognitive behavioral therapy.” Recent studies indicate that it just may be the most effective form of psychotherapy currently in practice. Writing for Healthline, Crystal Raypole says that “CBT aims to help you identify and explore the ways your emotions and thoughts can affect your actions. Once you notice these patterns, you can begin learning to reframe your thoughts in a more positive and helpful way. Unlike many other therapy approaches, CBT doesn’t focus much on talking about your past.”

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Beat The Holiday Blues

Posted on: December 21, 2021

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The holidays are a wonderful time of year. Whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Christmas or Kwanzaa, and however you celebrate the coming of the New Year, December is a joyous time to celebrate with family and friends. Joyous, that is, unless it’s not.

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The Best Career Advice of 2021

Posted on: December 17, 2021

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One thing we’ve all had to be over the last couple of years is “adaptable.” Whether you’ve had to figure out how to breathe properly through a mask while you work out in the gym, or juggle simultaneous online school sessions for two kids, the more creative and adaptable you’ve been, the better.

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Coping With The Reality Of Racial Trauma

Posted on: December 10, 2021

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All people have an infinite number of things in common. One thing in particular everyone shares is an array of feelings caused by stress. Differences between people, however, arise in regard to the cause of their stress. People of color, for example, can feel stress based on how they perceive people reacting to them simply because of their color. The situation is exacerbated when someone is the victim of verbal abuse or even physical violence because of their color.

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The Year’s Best Books For Your Mental Health

Posted on: December 3, 2021

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From Healthline to Psychology Today, publications that delve into the wonder and mystery of the human mind are as numerous as they are insightful. Count in an array of YouTube videos from renowned psychologists and the resources we have to research every aspect of human relationships are truly astounding. But wait — I haven’t mentioned full-length books that take up shelf after shelf in bookstores and libraries. The selection is not only impressive, but can be overwhelming.

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Taking The Stress Out Of The Holidays

Posted on: November 30, 2021

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Hanukkah is here and Christmas is coming. So… how’re you doing with your shopping? Unfortunately, shopping for presents for family and friends can turn a wonderful holiday season into a stress-filled scramble to find gifts for one and all. Throw in the added burden of wondering whether that Espresso machine you ordered online is stuck on a ship sitting in the harbor, and you can feel your blood pressure rising every passing moment.

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What To Do If You Dread The Upcoming Day

Posted on: November 24, 2021

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Everyone wakes up with the realization that the day ahead is going to be filled with challenges — once in a while. But if you find yourself waking up filled with anxiety on a regular basis, that’s a red flag. There’s no recognized condition known as morning anxiety, but if it’s a pattern of behavior then you may need to reflect on the root cause.

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The Negative Effects Of Sleeping Poorly

Posted on: November 19, 2021

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Ah, what can be nicer than waking up completely refreshed after a good night’s sleep? Unfortunately, in our fast-paced world, sleeping soundly is often a luxury we rarely indulge. We’re bombarded with things — often our own habits — that infringe on our ability to sleep well.

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To Be Or Not To Be

Posted on: November 12, 2021

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From Hamlet asking To be or not to be, to Burt Bacharach composing What’s It All About, Alfie?, people have pondered the meaning of life. At certain points in our life, turning 40 or 50 years of age, for example, we’re more prone to find ourselves asking the fundamental questions. Other events can also prompt deep self-reflection, the death of a loved one, perhaps, or a traumatic event such as divorce.

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Friendships and Happiness

Posted on: November 9, 2021

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How important are friendships? Very important, according to experienced psychologists, numerous research studies… and common sense. A good friend can provide emotional support, be a salve for loneliness and simply improve the quality of your life. Writing for Healthline.com, Jillian Goltzman says “Friendship is an essential part of the human experience… Some studies even refer to it as a proverbial ‘vaccine’ for improved health.”

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Understanding Mental Responses To Physical Ailments

Posted on: October 7, 2021

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Virtually everyone knows someone who has battled cancer. If there once was a stigma about revealing a cancer diagnosis, that stigma is, thankfully, gone.

There may be another stigma, though, associated with the diagnosis of a life-threatening disease: mental-health issues that are a by-product of dealing with the disease. It’s an inextricably related issue. Someone contracts a disease and all treatment and attention are on the physical ailment. But simultaneously, the person must deal with a variety of feelings that are a natural reaction to the diagnosis: depression, despair, loneliness.

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Depression… Described

Posted on: September 21, 2021

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Clearly conveying what you’re thinking or feeling is hard enough under the best of circumstances. But what happens when you’re feeling something you can’t explain, or even identify? That’s a problem central to mental health. Artists and creative individuals in particular struggle with the issue.

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How And Why To Rein In Your Emotions

Posted on: September 2, 2021

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News flash: these are emotional times. From dealing with differing views on the pandemic to incompatible political views, a lot of people are finding it hard to have a civil conversation without letting their emotions get the best of them. Writing for Healthline.com, Crystal Raypole says, “While emotions can have a helpful role in your daily life, they can take a toll on your emotional health and interpersonal relationships when they start to feel out of control.”

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How To Replace A Bad Habit With A Good One

Posted on: August 20, 2021

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It’s just possible, to understate the case mildly, that you may have picked up some bad habits over the last 18 months. Aside from taking some comfort in recognizing that you are far from alone, it is also comforting to know that it is possible to change some of those habits. But where to begin?

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How — And Why — To Relax

Posted on: August 17, 2021

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As if 18 months of a pandemic has not been bad enough, now it seems like the news is filled with one grim headline after another. How to cope? One natural and surprisingly effective way is to simply… relax. Sound easy? Maybe — but it can actually take a concerted effort when the world is conspiring to keep you on edge.

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Overcoming The Fear That’s Holding You Back

Posted on: August 13, 2021

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Some of the oldest and wisest advice in the world comes in a remarkably simple command: Fear not. Unfortunately, what sounds so simple is also maddeningly difficult. Fear can not only hold us back, it can manifest itself in a variety of ways. Aisha Beau has explored this topic extensively, including a deep dive into Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Obstacles, and Create a Life You Love. This fascinating book’s thesis is that there are seven fear archetypes, and most people are in the grip — to a lesser or greater extent — of one or more types. The result is that people often do not act, held back by a fear they may not even recognize.

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Social Anxiety? This May Help.

Posted on: August 10, 2021

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Do you feel like your social skills have gotten a bit rusty over the last 18 months? You’re not alone. Anecdotally, therapists are noting a marked uptick in people seeking counseling for social anxiety. A growing amount of research is backing up that observation.

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Nine Tips To Overcome Social Anxiety

Posted on: July 27, 2021

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People suffer from social anxiety for a variety of reasons, and they have done so for ages. Unfortunately, returning to socializing as the pandemic eases is no easy task even for people who do not experience extreme anxiety. No matter what level of anxiety you feel in social settings, though, and whether or not you experienced such anxiety pre-pandemic, there are ways to manage.

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Drinking Too Much? This May Help.

Posted on: July 20, 2021

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As if the pandemic hasn’t been bad enough by itself, for many people its side effects add an additional layer of trouble. Aside from flippant references to the “Covid 15” weight gain (which is sadly real), the data on increased alcohol consumption is also frightening.

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The Value And Strength Of ‘Character’

Posted on: July 13, 2021

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Have you ever wondered what “character” really is? The word “character” traces its roots to a Greek word that means to engrave. From the ancient Greek and then into Latin this led to the idea that, according to Aristotle, how we act over and over again engraves in our soul what becomes known as character. That’s why, when someone does something that people would not expect, they say they’re acting “out of character.”

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“Burnout” In 2021

Posted on: July 7, 2021

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Back in the good old pre-pandemic days, when we worked too hard or were simply juggling too many balls in the air, we might tell a friend we were “burned out.” Now, after a year and half of lockdowns, social distancing, online schooling and all the rest, “burnout” may not adequately capture our state of mind. Instead, psychologists are using a helpful phrase called “emotional exhaustion.”

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How To Overcome Negative Thoughts And Emotions

Posted on: July 1, 2021

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Books have been written about the power of positive thinking.  But the flip side of that, unfortunately, is also true in its own way: negative thinking can be powerful in its own destructive fashion. It can draw up unwanted memories and distressing flashbacks as well as generate a variety of upsetting emotions.

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The Power Of Positive Affirmations

Posted on: May 28, 2021

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No matter your education, income, social standing or any other metric you care to name, the simple fact is that life can be tough. Dealing with that reality can at times cause anxiety. Add in the fact that we’re just coming to grips with a once-in-a-lifetime (we hope) pandemic, and it’s no wonder that record numbers of people are reporting feeling anxious or depressed.

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You’re Invited: Online Townhall – Mental Health In Focus

Posted on: May 25, 2021

Almost twenty percent of all adults in the U.S. live with a mental health condition. Unfortunately, the situation is only getting worse – especially after the year everyone has just lived through. Mental health issues include a wide variety of conditions. If you, a friend or family member deals with a mental health condition, please know — you are not alone.

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Pandemic-Induced Boozing: No Laughing Matter

Posted on: May 4, 2021

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There’s been a lot of dark humor expressed over the last year. It’s only natural — “gallows humor” is a hallmark of people in every culture in every age. You’ve probably seen it in something as fairly benign as people talking about the “Covid 15” — the 15 pounds that so many people have added as they’ve exercised less and eaten more while locked down.

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Change Is Inevitable – Seize The Opportunity

Posted on: April 30, 2021

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There has been much written about the challenges we’ve faced over the last year. With vaccines available to all adults in America, though, and life beginning to return to a semblance of normality, now may be the time to look beyond the challenges. Now may be the time to look for any opportunities inherent in the inevitable process of life’s transitions.

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Is There Such A Thing As Pandemic PTSD?

Posted on: April 23, 2021

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Everyone has their own personal story about life during the pandemic. Emotional and psychological reactions run the gamut. For some people life wasn’t greatly disturbed. For others, their lives were turned upside down. That latter group may think it’s nice that everyday routines are returning to normal. But they may also be bothered by not being able to shake a terrible sense of anxiety. What is that all about?

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Has Loneliness Become A Problem?

Posted on: April 16, 2021

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It’s been over a year since governmental officials reacted to the pandemic by imposing lockdowns and encouraging many forms of social distancing. Most people cooperated and developed new patterns of work and social life. Combining work- and school-from-home routines with social activities such as Zoom happy hours, people coped. There was, however, a predictable side effect: loneliness. No matter how much people interacted online, the lack of actual physical interaction took its toll.

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Conquering Anxiety

Posted on: April 9, 2021

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Almost everyone suffers from some level of anxiety at one time or another. That’s normal because anxiety is the body’s natural reaction to stress or threats. An anxiety disorder, however, is another matter. It can actually become chronic and affect daily life.

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Leaving Loneliness Behind

Posted on: April 6, 2021

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As more and more people are vaccinated, lockdowns ease and our social life begins to return to normal, many people are confronted by a feeling they may not have fully acknowledged: loneliness. But there are nuances to loneliness that are valuable to understand in order to ease the transition back to normal social interaction and regain the sheer joy of living.

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How To Flourish Despite Adversity

Posted on: March 30, 2021

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If there’s one thing we’ve learned in the past year, it’s that adversity tests our resilience. The pandemic affected people very differently. While some people lost their jobs or even their businesses, other people simply shifted to working from home. On the other hand, everyone felt the pain of social isolation to some extent. But while some suffered anxiety, others took it all in stride. The question then arises — why are some people so resilient and others less so?

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How Grieving Leads To Healing

Posted on: March 26, 2021

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There is quite a bit of wisdom in the observation that love and grief are two sides of the same coin. If you love someone, you will eventually grieve their loss (or they will grieve you), because no one lives forever. The flip side is that you cannot grieve if you do not love.

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Do Your Friends Like Your Dating Partner?

Posted on: March 10, 2021

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If you’re dating, odds are your initial dates are a two-person event — you and your date out for dinner or some other activity. As time goes on, though, you probably have a very reasonable desire to introduce your partner to your friends or family. After all, socializing in a larger group is a lot of fun! Whether you know it consciously or not, you’re probably also sensitive to how your friends react to someone you’re dating. Basically, do they like him or her?

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Do You Have Mental Health Questions About The Pandemic?

Posted on: March 4, 2021

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What a year 2020 was. We may not have wanted to live through a historic event, but that’s exactly what we all did together. Have you felt the strain of dealing with the repercussions of the pandemic? If so, you’re not alone. Sarah Bourassa, writing for HuffPost.com, says “March 11 marks one year since the World Health Organization declared the coronavirus outbreak a global pandemic. For many people, this has been one of the most difficult years of their lives. Therapists have seen that mental health issues are magnified because of it. Social distancing has led to loneliness and isolation. The uncertainty of the future has triggered stress and anxiety. And many have grieved the loss of normalcy, and the loss of loved ones.”

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Tips For Women To Manage Work-Life Balance

Posted on: February 16, 2021

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Depending upon where you live in the state, your local schools may or may not be readmitting kids back for in-person learning soon. As we’ve learned over the past year, this very may well place more of a burden on the woman of the household, especially if she is trying to juggle her own work responsibilities.

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Five Ways To Cope With Economic Stress

Posted on: February 9, 2021

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There’s a good reason that the new Biden administration and congress have made an economic relief package a top priority. It’s due to the simple fact that the economic impact from the pandemic and the resultant lockdowns has been huge and, unfortunately, affected some people far more than others. For many people that means an incredible amount of economic stress added to the initial burdens of dealing with social isolation, home schooling, disrupted exercise routines and, of course, possible health consequences of contracting Covid-19.

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Do You Have Any ‘Harmless Habits?’

Posted on: February 5, 2021

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If you browse through a book store or search online for advice on achieving success in business or enhancing your personal relationships, you’ll be overwhelmed with titles. Most of them focus on things you can proactively do to work more efficiently or live a better life. That’s a very helpful way to make changes in your life. But there’s another way to think about improving both your business performance and your personal relationships — identify habits that may appear to be harmless but are actually a hindrance.

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Feeling Post-Election Stress? Here Are Ways To Cope.

Posted on: January 26, 2021

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An election, and dealing with the results of an election, is — as they say in a catch phrase of our times — complicated. But there’s more than a little truth in this simple statement. Cathy Casata, writing for Healthline.com, touches on some of the complications. “Post-election anxiety can be particularly difficult for people when the candidate they supported doesn’t win. In fact, they may face even more strain on their mental health if they live in a state that supported their candidate.”

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Combatting Suicidal Thoughts

Posted on: January 21, 2021

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The latest data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention are truly heartbreaking. The number of annual suicides in America totaled 48,344, which placed it as the 10th leading cause of death.

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The Ill Effects Of Racial Trauma

Posted on: January 19, 2021

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From the death of George Floyd in May of last year to the Capitol riots of January 6th, there has been an onslaught of racially charged events that we all have to deal with. In fact, dealing with racism can involve trauma that needs to be addressed in order to heal. 

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Suffering From Job Search Burnout?

Posted on: January 15, 2021

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As if dealing with the coronavirus itself isn’t hard enough, a staggering number of people are also dealing with a side effect of the pandemic: job loss.  What’s more, the stress of looking for work increases the longer a search goes on.

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Prayer In Response To The Pandemic

Posted on: December 30, 2020

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Do you know what one of the most common reactions was to the initial outbreak of the coronavirus? It was to research the concept of prayer. Some evidence to support this statement comes from a look at the volume of search on Google for the term “prayer.” From February to March of 2020 search volume surged dramatically, increasing 50% in 95 countries.

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How To Fight The Holiday Blues

Posted on: December 23, 2020

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Just to cap off 2020 —probably the strangest year of most of our lives — most of us are celebrating the holidays with far fewer members of our extended families. This is having some predictable results. “A global pandemic with no end in sight means the impact of social isolation will be more palpable than usual, making more people susceptible to loneliness,” says Kenya Foy writing on HuffPost.com.

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Justin Bieber and the Cost of Fame

Posted on: December 18, 2020

How would it feel to be the most searched-for person in the world on Google? More amazingly, how would it feel if you were only 17 years old at the time? You might ask Justin Bieber to answer those questions. According to Microsoft’s search engine Bing, more people searched for Bieber in 2011 — when he was 17 — than any other person in the world.  His manager, Scooter Braun, in barely an overstatement, says “No one has ever grown up in the history of humanity like Justin Bieber.”

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Six Tips For Some Much Needed Self Care

Posted on: December 11, 2020

In the aftermath of the election, there is one thing we can all agree on — it has been a long, hard-fought path to the White House. It’s time for a time-out, and some self-care for ourselves and our communities.

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Can We Cross The Bridge Of Our Political Divide?

Posted on: December 8, 2020

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Does it seem like the presidential election was ages ago? It just might, especially as new state-mandated restrictions are in place in response to an increase in Covid-19-related hospitalizations. But political tensions remain, and are likely to take center stage again.

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Have You Heard Of Agoraphobia?

Posted on: December 1, 2020

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Have you heard of agoraphobia? It’s a type of anxiety disorder that leads you to fear and avoid places or situations that might cause you to have a negative reaction — a bit of panic or a general feeling that you’re trapped, helpless or embarrassed.

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Feeling Better After The Election?

Posted on: November 24, 2020

So, now that the election is over, are you feeling better? If not, rest assured you’re not alone. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), the vast majority of Americans did anything but breathe a big sigh of relief.

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Problematic Personalities

Posted on: October 12, 2020

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We all have our own unique ways of feeling and thinking and expressing ourselves. Most of the time, our uniqueness is seen simply as an individual difference – or something special about each of us. In fact, this is what brings interest and variety to the people in our lives. This is a positive thing. One of the healthiest things we can do is to achieve a fairly objective understanding of just how we are unique or different from other people. Then we can understand how our behavior impacts other people and adjust the way we act accordingly. That is, we can problem-solve our way through situations when we have a good understanding of our unique personality characteristics. We are talking here about personality style – and all of us have our own styles.

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Are You Feeling Socially Isolated?

Posted on: September 21, 2020

Quick question: When was the last time you hugged an old friend you happened to bump into at the grocery store? More than likely, you answered – “Well, certainly before last March.”

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Are We All Becoming Socially Awkward?

Posted on: September 17, 2020

There have been obvious ramifications of the pandemic we’ve all been enduring since March of this year. Job losses. Cancelled vacations. New exercise routines. The list goes on.

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Managing Chronic Pain

Posted on: August 12, 2020

Pain can be seen as the Body’s Messenger Telling Us That Things Are Not Right – And Let’s See How to Make Them Better

Estimates based on research indicate that from ten to thirty percent of the American population suffers from chronic or recurrent physical pain. Pain sufferers often feel that their doctors are not able to give them the treatment they need to alleviate their pain. They may have been told that it is all in their head, and they feel very alone when nobody can seem to give them support for being in pain. They feel helpless, anxiety-ridden, depressed, angry, frustrated, and out of control. They often turn to prescription pain medication, drugs or alcohol for relief – only to find that these quick fixes can cause more complications and devastation in their lives than the original pain.

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Loss Can Bring Gain

Posted on: July 6, 2020

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Loss Can Be Painful – But It Can Open the Door to New, and Even Better, Life Experiences

Loss is embedded in the process of living. It happens to everyone and it is inevitable. There is no such thing as constant gain in our lives. Despite our wish to live in the security of abundance and perfect health, we necessarily must lose something, over and over again throughout our lives. Time itself eventually creates loss. We come into this world with everything to gain and leave it with everything to lose. And in between we go through a series of gains and losses, ups and downs. Learning to accept both is a sign of wellness, maturity – and even wisdom.

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Self-Reflection and the Inward-Looking Person

Posted on: June 19, 2020

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“Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.”
Joseph Campbell

We live in a world of extroverts. Our social norms are geared to people who are “out there” – those who achieve, compete, socialize easily, and are energized by the external world. Society encourages us to describe ourselves in terms of what we see externally (like TV ads) and we try to match the models provided for us. Our idea of success is to achieve a life that’s prescribed for us by the social sphere. The extrovert’s idea of happiness is to have lots of friends and to enjoy talking, even when they don’t put much thought into what they say. They like activity and being around excitement. When so much of our attention is directed outwardly, however, we can lose track of our own authentic needs. 

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The Aftermath of Trauma – Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Posted on: May 15, 2020

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Most of us build our lives around the belief that we will be relatively safe. Granted, normal daily life involves many stressors, especially in these hectic times, but we expect these pressures to happen and we become accustomed to handling them. The more flexible we are and the more we know ourselves and are in touch with our abilities, the easier it is to deal with normal everyday stress.

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What About Depression?

Posted on: April 8, 2020

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Timely information about mental health during the pandemic.

Everyone feels sad from time to time. It’s only natural. Most people go through blue days or just periods of feeling down, especially after they experience a loss. But what experts call clinical depression is different from just being “down in the dumps.” The main difference is that the sad or empty mood does not go away after a couple of weeks – and everyday activities like eating, sleeping, socializing, or working can be affected.

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Surviving The Life Crisis

Posted on: February 25, 2020

The Bleakest Times of Our Lives Can Give Rise to Remarkably Positive Life Transformations

A life crisis is one of the inevitable features of our lives. Learning how to survive a crisis is a crucial skill, and one that we will probably need more than once throughout our lives. A crisis can occur when things begin to fall apart around us. The things that shape us – our marital status, job title, relationships with family and friends, health, or financial security – have disappeared and we find ourselves adrift without any clear guidelines that tell us what to do next. We feel lost. Do we hide? Do we deny this is happening? Do we rage? Do we fear the world? The answers may not be obvious. Nobody ever told us that the world would turn out this way. But one thing is clear – this is a crisis.

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Eating Disorders

Posted on: February 14, 2020

An Eating Disorder Is a Very Serious Problem That Demands Immediate Attention

The Chinese used to bind the feet of women to make them smaller. So tiny and fragile were their feet, in fact, that some women were left essentially crippled, barely able to walk. To the Chinese, this was a sign of beauty and social status. But to us it seems a cruel and bizarre practice. 

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Depression In Men

Posted on: January 24, 2020

The incidence of depression in our society seems to be on the rise. Recent estimates suggest that as many as one in three of us will experience some form of depression within our lifetimes. Others claim that depression may even represent a symptom of our times which are characterized by alienation, lack of strong community bonds, and hopeless economic situations for many.

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