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Nine Tips To Overcome Social Anxiety

Posted on: July 27, 2021

Individual Counseling Insights brought to you by California Psychotherapeutic Resources, Inc.

People suffer from social anxiety for a variety of reasons, and they have done so for ages. Unfortunately, returning to socializing as the pandemic eases is no easy task even for people who do not experience extreme anxiety. No matter what level of anxiety you feel in social settings, though, and whether or not you experienced such anxiety pre-pandemic, there are ways to manage.

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Four Tips To Improve Your Romantic Relationship

Posted on: July 23, 2021

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It’s the rare couple who says, nope, our relationship is perfect — nothing to improve here. Add in the stress of forced changes in lifestyle over the last 18 months — from a hiatus in dining out to postponed vacations — and this just might be the ideal time to make a commitment to improve your romantic relationship. With that in mind, here are four tips t reignite the spark.

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Drinking Too Much? This May Help.

Posted on: July 20, 2021

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As if the pandemic hasn’t been bad enough by itself, for many people its side effects add an additional layer of trouble. Aside from flippant references to the “Covid 15” weight gain (which is sadly real), the data on increased alcohol consumption is also frightening.

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The Value And Strength Of ‘Character’

Posted on: July 13, 2021

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Have you ever wondered what “character” really is? The word “character” traces its roots to a Greek word that means to engrave. From the ancient Greek and then into Latin this led to the idea that, according to Aristotle, how we act over and over again engraves in our soul what becomes known as character. That’s why, when someone does something that people would not expect, they say they’re acting “out of character.”

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Have You Heard Of Dr. Spock?

Posted on: July 9, 2021

Or, Parenting Tips For The Ages

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It’s been 75 years since Dr. Benjamin Spock published The Common Sense Book of Baby and Childcare. Essentially, Dr. Spock broke from the tradition that said children required discipline, schedules and little affection. That advice struck a chord with the parents of the baby boom generation and the book sold more than 50 million copies.

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“Burnout” In 2021

Posted on: July 7, 2021

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Back in the good old pre-pandemic days, when we worked too hard or were simply juggling too many balls in the air, we might tell a friend we were “burned out.” Now, after a year and half of lockdowns, social distancing, online schooling and all the rest, “burnout” may not adequately capture our state of mind. Instead, psychologists are using a helpful phrase called “emotional exhaustion.”

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How To Overcome Negative Thoughts And Emotions

Posted on: July 1, 2021

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Books have been written about the power of positive thinking.  But the flip side of that, unfortunately, is also true in its own way: negative thinking can be powerful in its own destructive fashion. It can draw up unwanted memories and distressing flashbacks as well as generate a variety of upsetting emotions.

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How Narcissistic Mothers Affect Their Daughters

Posted on: June 30, 2021

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Our parents — they can nurture us as young children in so many healthy ways. On the flip side, they can also often unwittingly bequeath us with so many psychological problems. For example, women who had a narcissistic mother can find themselves dealing with variety of issues as an adult.  In relationships, they may find themselves constantly fearing abandonment. Looking to have their emotional needs met, they may often be left with a vague sense that something is missing. In seeking a partner, they may wonder why they’re continually entering controlling relationships, or struggling for power with their partner.

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An Update On The Science Of Narcissism

Posted on: June 28, 2021

Aside from having particular personality traits, the latest scientific research is indicating that people with narcissistic tendencies actually process information differently. More specifically, they seem to process words differently.

In this video, psychologist Dr. Ramani talks about the implications of this research.

For further discussion of the topic, see the following blog posts.

Was Dear Old Dad Really A Narcissist?

How To Spot A Narcissist.

How Narcissistic Mothers Affect Their Daughters

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Post-Argument Repair Of A Relationship

Posted on: June 28, 2021

All couples have occasional arguments. According to Dr. John Gottman of the Gottman Institute, what separates “relationship masters” is how they make repairing the relationship after an argument a priority. More important, though, there is one key factor that makes some repair efforts succeed while others fail.

Watch the short video as Dr. Gottman describes what that factor is.

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What Is The Connection Between Narcissism And Mental Health?

Posted on: June 28, 2021

The topic of narcissism is complex and heavily nuanced. Someone who experiences narcissistic abuse may also suffer from, for example, anxiety. Is there a connection between the two, and if so what is it?

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The Secret To Providing True Support For Your Partner

Posted on: June 25, 2021

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What’s the best way to help your partner when they’re overloaded at work or with life in general? That’s a no-brainer, you might say — it’s by jumping in and taking over chores, or fixing dinner, or bathing the kids. The list is endless. Not so fast, though. What seems perfectly intuitive may actually be off base.

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Is Your Partner Sabotaging Your Relationship? Are You?

Posted on: June 22, 2021

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The joy of a romantic relationship can be almost boundless. Why then, is that potential for joy so often checked — sabotaged, perhaps, by our own behavior? One answer lies in the fact that we are not blank slates. We all have a past that affects our current feelings and actions. More distressingly, it may be a past that we can’t remember.

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Was Dear Old Dad Really A Narcissist?

Posted on: June 17, 2021

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In a recent blog post — How To Spot A Narcissist — we talked about personality traits that might indicate a person was a bit of a narcissist. We focused mostly on identifying the tendency in friends and family in general. But what about one family member in particular — your father, whether he’s alive or not — who could have an outsize influence on you? How can you tell if your father is or was a narcissist, and how might that affect you?

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Helping Kids Transition Back To “Normal”

Posted on: June 14, 2021

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For most adults, handling the pandemic’s rules and regulations and changed lifestyle has been stressful, to put it mildly. But at least adults generally understand what a virus and its possible resultant illness are. That’s often not the case with kids.

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How To Spot A Narcissist

Posted on: June 8, 2021

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We all bring a lot of common sense to our relationships. If you’re pretty well grounded, you can probably spot someone who is, shall we say, “self oriented.” In everyday language you might hear someone at a party say, “Wow, that guy is so full of himself!”

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The Mystery Of Stockholm Syndrome

Posted on: June 7, 2021

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In a recent blog post, we wrote about a particular problem that couples may face to varying degrees. It’s a pattern of behavior known as a “trauma bond.” In this kind of a relationship, a bond develops out of a repeated cycle of abuse, devaluation, and positive reinforcement. This cycle can be especially insidious because a person often wants to make excuses for their partner or immediately forgive the abuse, especially if they apologize or alternate the abuse with kindness.

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Have You Heard Of A Trauma Bond?

Posted on: June 3, 2021

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Here’s a statement that should make most couples smile (if not laugh out loud): relationships are hard! Yes, even good relationships require work. Beyond normal relationships, though, there are a variety of problematic relationships that can be toxic. One in particular is known as a “trauma bond.”

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The Power Of Positive Affirmations

Posted on: May 28, 2021

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No matter your education, income, social standing or any other metric you care to name, the simple fact is that life can be tough. Dealing with that reality can at times cause anxiety. Add in the fact that we’re just coming to grips with a once-in-a-lifetime (we hope) pandemic, and it’s no wonder that record numbers of people are reporting feeling anxious or depressed.

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You’re Invited: Online Townhall – Mental Health In Focus

Posted on: May 25, 2021

Almost twenty percent of all adults in the U.S. live with a mental health condition. Unfortunately, the situation is only getting worse – especially after the year everyone has just lived through. Mental health issues include a wide variety of conditions. If you, a friend or family member deals with a mental health condition, please know — you are not alone.

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Can PTSD Lead To Love Avoidance?

Posted on: May 21, 2021

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The short answer is, absolutely yes. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) has a variety of features, including a tendency to pull away from certain situations or relationships. This behavior is actually quite rational. PTSD can cause a person to feel emotionally numb and involve feelings of rejection or abandonment.

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Love Addicts and Avoidants

Posted on: May 18, 2021

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Couples who experience less-than-acceptable intimacy in their relationship are hardly alone. Sometimes, one partner may lean toward being a “love addict” while the other is a “love avoidant.” Being one or the other is a problem. When Addict lives with Avoidant the stage is set for real trouble.

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When Bad News Rocks Your Kids’ World

Posted on: May 14, 2021

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You don’t have to search the news very hard to find some events that are outright shocking. In fact, if you have a news channel tuned in on the TV or a newspaper lying on the dinner table, it can actually be hard to avoid. If you’re a parent with younger children or even teens, you might sense that these events are really disturbing your kids’ world.

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What’s Up With Gen Z?

Posted on: May 11, 2021

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Gen Z is stressed out. That’s not just an opinion or casual observation. According to the American Psychological Association (APA) Stress in America survey, more than one-third of young adults ages 18 to 23 — the older members of Gen Z — said that their mental health was worse at the end of 2020 than at the same time in 2019. That’s a higher number than any other age group.

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Goodbye Quarantine – Hello Social Awkwardness

Posted on: May 7, 2021

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It’s not something most people probably thought about at the beginning of the pandemic or during the subsequent quarantine and lockdown measures. We’re talking about social awkwardness after being away from groups and social situations for an extended period of time. Of course, some very social people will fit right back into their routines. A lot of people, though, especially those who are more introverted or those with a touch of social anxiety, may find it difficult to just start mingling again.

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Pandemic-Induced Boozing: No Laughing Matter

Posted on: May 4, 2021

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There’s been a lot of dark humor expressed over the last year. It’s only natural — “gallows humor” is a hallmark of people in every culture in every age. You’ve probably seen it in something as fairly benign as people talking about the “Covid 15” — the 15 pounds that so many people have added as they’ve exercised less and eaten more while locked down.

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Change Is Inevitable – Seize The Opportunity

Posted on: April 30, 2021

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There has been much written about the challenges we’ve faced over the last year. With vaccines available to all adults in America, though, and life beginning to return to a semblance of normality, now may be the time to look beyond the challenges. Now may be the time to look for any opportunities inherent in the inevitable process of life’s transitions.

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Getting Back To Normal? Not So Fast.

Posted on: April 27, 2021

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For the last several months the idea of getting back to normal has been like a tantalizing dream. But as more and more people became vaccinated that dream has steadily turned into reality. Many people, though, especially kids, have felt an odd sense of anxiety as they returned to once-normal activities. What’s going on?

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Is There Such A Thing As Pandemic PTSD?

Posted on: April 23, 2021

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Everyone has their own personal story about life during the pandemic. Emotional and psychological reactions run the gamut. For some people life wasn’t greatly disturbed. For others, their lives were turned upside down. That latter group may think it’s nice that everyday routines are returning to normal. But they may also be bothered by not being able to shake a terrible sense of anxiety. What is that all about?

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Healthy Ways To Manage Stress – For Your Kids’ Sake

Posted on: April 20, 2021

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You may not often think of your family as such, but it is actually an intricate social system. Naturally, there are both positives and negatives that go along with the system. For example, in an article on the American Psychological Association (APA) website, it is noted that “73% of parents report family responsibilities as a significant source of stress.” Reflecting the intricacy of the family social network, the same research also found that “more than two-thirds of parents think their stress level has slight to no impact on their child’s stress level. However, only 14% of tweens and teens reported that they are not bothered when their parent is stressed.”

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Has Loneliness Become A Problem?

Posted on: April 16, 2021

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It’s been over a year since governmental officials reacted to the pandemic by imposing lockdowns and encouraging many forms of social distancing. Most people cooperated and developed new patterns of work and social life. Combining work- and school-from-home routines with social activities such as Zoom happy hours, people coped. There was, however, a predictable side effect: loneliness. No matter how much people interacted online, the lack of actual physical interaction took its toll.

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Grieving In The Age Of Covid

Posted on: April 13, 2021

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When people think of grieving, they often picture someone who has lost a loved one. Mourning someone who has died is certainly one type of grieving. Also, if someone has a family member or close friend who has died during the various stages of lockdown over the past year, grieving is made even more complicated. But there are other forms of grieving as well, in response to the many types of loss we’ve experienced during the pandemic.

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Conquering Anxiety

Posted on: April 9, 2021

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Almost everyone suffers from some level of anxiety at one time or another. That’s normal because anxiety is the body’s natural reaction to stress or threats. An anxiety disorder, however, is another matter. It can actually become chronic and affect daily life.

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Leaving Loneliness Behind

Posted on: April 6, 2021

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As more and more people are vaccinated, lockdowns ease and our social life begins to return to normal, many people are confronted by a feeling they may not have fully acknowledged: loneliness. But there are nuances to loneliness that are valuable to understand in order to ease the transition back to normal social interaction and regain the sheer joy of living.

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How To Flourish Despite Adversity

Posted on: March 30, 2021

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If there’s one thing we’ve learned in the past year, it’s that adversity tests our resilience. The pandemic affected people very differently. While some people lost their jobs or even their businesses, other people simply shifted to working from home. On the other hand, everyone felt the pain of social isolation to some extent. But while some suffered anxiety, others took it all in stride. The question then arises — why are some people so resilient and others less so?

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How Grieving Leads To Healing

Posted on: March 26, 2021

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There is quite a bit of wisdom in the observation that love and grief are two sides of the same coin. If you love someone, you will eventually grieve their loss (or they will grieve you), because no one lives forever. The flip side is that you cannot grieve if you do not love.

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The Secret To Great Sex

Posted on: March 23, 2021

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As many a couple can attest, sexual relations can be surprisingly and at times infuriatingly complicated. One complicating factor is how important intimacy is to sexual relations.

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A Little Secret To A Happier Relationship

Posted on: March 19, 2021

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Years ago a phrase came into popular use: Men Are From Mars And Women Are From Venus. It actually came from a book by the same name, and it taps into a common sense observation that men and women often think differently about some things.

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Sleepless Nights? There Are Simple, Effective Ways To Cope

Posted on: March 16, 2021

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It’s been virtually a year to the day since America and, indeed, the whole world began reacting to the pandemic. Problems associated with lockdowns, social distancing and all the other efforts aimed at stopping the spread of Covid-19 have been well documented. One little discussed problem, though, is a mundane but very important one: how to get a good night’s rest when you’re filled with anxiety.

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Communicating With Your Teens – A Hidden Opportunity

Posted on: March 12, 2021

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The downsides to the pandemic — and there have been many — are widely talked about. But are there also opportunities hidden in our response to life during the last year? One may be the chance to communicate more often and more deeply with your teenagers. The stress that has arisen from coping with a restricted lifestyle may give parents a welcome reason to begin a conversation. Feeling bad? Let’s talk about it.

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Do Your Friends Like Your Dating Partner?

Posted on: March 10, 2021

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If you’re dating, odds are your initial dates are a two-person event — you and your date out for dinner or some other activity. As time goes on, though, you probably have a very reasonable desire to introduce your partner to your friends or family. After all, socializing in a larger group is a lot of fun! Whether you know it consciously or not, you’re probably also sensitive to how your friends react to someone you’re dating. Basically, do they like him or her?

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Do You Have Mental Health Questions About The Pandemic?

Posted on: March 4, 2021

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What a year 2020 was. We may not have wanted to live through a historic event, but that’s exactly what we all did together. Have you felt the strain of dealing with the repercussions of the pandemic? If so, you’re not alone. Sarah Bourassa, writing for HuffPost.com, says “March 11 marks one year since the World Health Organization declared the coronavirus outbreak a global pandemic. For many people, this has been one of the most difficult years of their lives. Therapists have seen that mental health issues are magnified because of it. Social distancing has led to loneliness and isolation. The uncertainty of the future has triggered stress and anxiety. And many have grieved the loss of normalcy, and the loss of loved ones.”

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How To Improve Your Long-Distance Relationship

Posted on: March 2, 2021

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Long-distance relationships are more common than they once were. Young couples, especially, can find them themselves in a long-distance relationship when one partner heads off to grad school, or — just starting out in a career — accepts a job half-way across the country. Throw in the added possibility that the pandemic has steered some people toward a long-distance relationship, and you have the prospect of a lot of people heading into uncharted territory.

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Teaching Your Kids To Properly Manage Stress

Posted on: February 26, 2021

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Family dynamics are fascinating. Parents in particular have an effect on their children that they may not even realize. If they are experiencing stress, for example, their reaction to and methods of coping with that stress are probably observed by their children — and eventually imitated — even if the parents are not aware of this dynamic.

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Talking To Kids About Covid

Posted on: February 23, 2021

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With millions of people having contracted Covid-19, it’s very possible that you know someone personally who has been affected. Although adults generally understand the situation pretty well, it’s quite another story with kids. Depending on their age and their relationship with the person who has the disease, they may not clearly understand what’s happening. That may result in anxiety that affects them in different ways.

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The Timeless Benefit Of Unstructured Play

Posted on: February 19, 2021

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For the last year people have been coping with having their normal routines upended. A lot of people are adjusting by simply using their common sense. For those who prefer to seek out expert advice on ways to cope, there have been plenty of options — newspapers, TV shows and websites are filled with articles on adjusting to pandemic lifestyles.

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Tips For Women To Manage Work-Life Balance

Posted on: February 16, 2021

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Depending upon where you live in the state, your local schools may or may not be readmitting kids back for in-person learning soon. As we’ve learned over the past year, this very may well place more of a burden on the woman of the household, especially if she is trying to juggle her own work responsibilities.

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Five Ways To Cope With Economic Stress

Posted on: February 9, 2021

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There’s a good reason that the new Biden administration and congress have made an economic relief package a top priority. It’s due to the simple fact that the economic impact from the pandemic and the resultant lockdowns has been huge and, unfortunately, affected some people far more than others. For many people that means an incredible amount of economic stress added to the initial burdens of dealing with social isolation, home schooling, disrupted exercise routines and, of course, possible health consequences of contracting Covid-19.

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Do You Have Any ‘Harmless Habits?’

Posted on: February 5, 2021

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If you browse through a book store or search online for advice on achieving success in business or enhancing your personal relationships, you’ll be overwhelmed with titles. Most of them focus on things you can proactively do to work more efficiently or live a better life. That’s a very helpful way to make changes in your life. But there’s another way to think about improving both your business performance and your personal relationships — identify habits that may appear to be harmless but are actually a hindrance.

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How To Get Out Of A Relationship Rut

Posted on: February 2, 2021

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If you have an especially close friend, you may have revealed a little secret to one another: your relationship with your partner is in a rut. If so, take heart — you’re not alone. Relationships between partners have taken a hit during the pandemic, with predictable results.

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Dating At A Distance — Tips To Make It Succeed

Posted on: January 29, 2021

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There have been many casualties of the pandemic, of varying degrees. One little-noted consequence is its effect on dating. Social distancing, wearing masks and losing access to normal social gathering spots — from happy hours at bars to indoor dining at restaurants — has made normal dating seem like a relic of the past. 

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Feeling Post-Election Stress? Here Are Ways To Cope.

Posted on: January 26, 2021

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An election, and dealing with the results of an election, is — as they say in a catch phrase of our times — complicated. But there’s more than a little truth in this simple statement. Cathy Casata, writing for Healthline.com, touches on some of the complications. “Post-election anxiety can be particularly difficult for people when the candidate they supported doesn’t win. In fact, they may face even more strain on their mental health if they live in a state that supported their candidate.”

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Combatting Suicidal Thoughts

Posted on: January 21, 2021

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The latest data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention are truly heartbreaking. The number of annual suicides in America totaled 48,344, which placed it as the 10th leading cause of death.

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The Ill Effects Of Racial Trauma

Posted on: January 19, 2021

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From the death of George Floyd in May of last year to the Capitol riots of January 6th, there has been an onslaught of racially charged events that we all have to deal with. In fact, dealing with racism can involve trauma that needs to be addressed in order to heal. 

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Suffering From Job Search Burnout?

Posted on: January 15, 2021

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As if dealing with the coronavirus itself isn’t hard enough, a staggering number of people are also dealing with a side effect of the pandemic: job loss.  What’s more, the stress of looking for work increases the longer a search goes on.

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Fighting With Your Spouse? You’re Not Alone.

Posted on: January 12, 2021

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The old joke about spouses entering retirement is that they signed up for life, but not for lunch. It’s a bit of humor that draws on the insight that spending too much time with anyone — even somebody you love dearly — can create a tension all its own.

Enter the pandemic. Now we work from home, manage our kids’ online learning, turn to Zoom happy hours — all in close contact sometimes 24/7 with your spouse. What could go wrong? As we’re finding out — plenty.

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Books To Ease Your Kids’ Anxiety

Posted on: January 8, 2021

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It’s a fair guess that back in March of last year not many people would have predicted we’d enter 2021 struggling with another surge in the pandemic and further shelter-in-place orders. Maybe that’s a bit of a blessing. How many people would have said, “That’s fine, I can ‘socially distance’ for a year or so no problem.”

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Six Tips For Comforting Your Kids In Trying Times

Posted on: January 5, 2021

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Now that 2021 is here, many people might have expected the stress they felt in 2020 to simply fade away. As we’re quickly discovering, that’s not happening. As a surge in cases of Covid-19 follows the holidays, and as people anxiously await the rollout of the various vaccines, almost everyone realizes we’re still living with daily anxiety.

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Prayer In Response To The Pandemic

Posted on: December 30, 2020

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Do you know what one of the most common reactions was to the initial outbreak of the coronavirus? It was to research the concept of prayer. Some evidence to support this statement comes from a look at the volume of search on Google for the term “prayer.” From February to March of 2020 search volume surged dramatically, increasing 50% in 95 countries.

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How To Fight The Holiday Blues

Posted on: December 23, 2020

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Just to cap off 2020 —probably the strangest year of most of our lives — most of us are celebrating the holidays with far fewer members of our extended families. This is having some predictable results. “A global pandemic with no end in sight means the impact of social isolation will be more palpable than usual, making more people susceptible to loneliness,” says Kenya Foy writing on HuffPost.com.

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