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Taking The Stress Out Of The Holidays

Posted on: November 30, 2021

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Hanukkah is here and Christmas is coming. So… how’re you doing with your shopping? Unfortunately, shopping for presents for family and friends can turn a wonderful holiday season into a stress-filled scramble to find gifts for one and all. Throw in the added burden of wondering whether that Espresso machine you ordered online is stuck on a ship sitting in the harbor, and you can feel your blood pressure rising every passing moment.

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What To Do If You Dread The Upcoming Day

Posted on: November 24, 2021

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Everyone wakes up with the realization that the day ahead is going to be filled with challenges — once in a while. But if you find yourself waking up filled with anxiety on a regular basis, that’s a red flag. There’s no recognized condition known as morning anxiety, but if it’s a pattern of behavior then you may need to reflect on the root cause.

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The Negative Effects Of Sleeping Poorly

Posted on: November 19, 2021

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Ah, what can be nicer than waking up completely refreshed after a good night’s sleep? Unfortunately, in our fast-paced world, sleeping soundly is often a luxury we rarely indulge. We’re bombarded with things — often our own habits — that infringe on our ability to sleep well.

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How Couples Can Use A Fight To Grow Their Relationship

Posted on: November 16, 2021

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To Be Or Not To Be

Posted on: November 12, 2021

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From Hamlet asking To be or not to be, to Burt Bacharach composing What’s It All About, Alfie?, people have pondered the meaning of life. At certain points in our life, turning 40 or 50 years of age, for example, we’re more prone to find ourselves asking the fundamental questions. Other events can also prompt deep self-reflection, the death of a loved one, perhaps, or a traumatic event such as divorce.

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Friendships and Happiness

Posted on: November 9, 2021

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How important are friendships? Very important, according to experienced psychologists, numerous research studies… and common sense. A good friend can provide emotional support, be a salve for loneliness and simply improve the quality of your life. Writing for Healthline.com, Jillian Goltzman says “Friendship is an essential part of the human experience… Some studies even refer to it as a proverbial ‘vaccine’ for improved health.”

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What Is Your Attachment Style?

Posted on: November 5, 2021

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Psychologists have long known how important the first year of life is in a person’s emotional development. But did you know that the relationship you had with your earliest primary caregivers influenced the “attachment style” you in turn developed in early childhood? That style is something you probably carried into adulthood especially in regard to your romantic relationships.

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Have You Heard Of Trauma Bonding?

Posted on: November 2, 2021

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Romantic relationships are like the human body: when everything is working well, you hardly give it a second thought. But oh my, there are so many ways everything can go wrong. One particularly insidious problem in romantic relationships may manifest itself in a cycle of abusive behavior followed by brief moments of positive reinforcement — behavior that could be a symptom of “trauma bonding.”

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Looking For The Good… And Finding Happiness

Posted on: October 29, 2021

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As many people in a long-term relationship can attest, it’s more difficult to be happy individually if you and your partner are at odds with each other. A logical question, then, follows: Is there a way to build a solid foundation in a relationship and then strengthen it with every passing year, giving you a better chance of being happy overall?

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Can There Be ‘The One?’

Posted on: October 26, 2021

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Parenting Language To Avoid

Posted on: October 22, 2021

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It’s not exactly a news flash for parents, but kids don’t come with an owner’s manual. A lot of parents simply raise their kids the way they were raised. The more ambitious among us read books on parenting. And in this day and age of social media, many join online parenting groups. Even so, even the best parent can sometimes say things to their child that just might do more harm than good. It’s unintentional, of course, but most kids don’t understand that nuance.

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Is That Flag Trying To Tell You Something?

Posted on: October 19, 2021

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Whether you’re in an established relationship or just developing a romance with someone, it’s a valuable exercise to take a step back and look at things objectively. Are there red flags in your relationship? If so, they are truly worth paying attention to and understanding. After all, literal red flags are used to indicate trouble coming, and metaphorical red flags in a relationship indicate the same thing. Spotting trouble ahead of time gives you the chance to avoid it.

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Anxiety Symptoms in Children

Posted on: October 16, 2021

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Okay, just to put things in perspective, it’s been about 18 months since the pandemic forced everything from masking to online schooling at home. For a six-year-old, that’s a quarter of their lifetime, and probably about half of the life they can remember. Any wonder that some kids are showing signs of anxiety?

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Eight Essential Conversations

Posted on: October 12, 2021

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Understanding Mental Responses To Physical Ailments

Posted on: October 7, 2021

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Virtually everyone knows someone who has battled cancer. If there once was a stigma about revealing a cancer diagnosis, that stigma is, thankfully, gone.

There may be another stigma, though, associated with the diagnosis of a life-threatening disease: mental-health issues that are a by-product of dealing with the disease. It’s an inextricably related issue. Someone contracts a disease and all treatment and attention are on the physical ailment. But simultaneously, the person must deal with a variety of feelings that are a natural reaction to the diagnosis: depression, despair, loneliness.

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ADD: More Complex Than You May Have Imagined

Posted on: October 5, 2021

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Have you heard of Dr. Daniel Amen? He’s an MD, child and adult psychiatrist, nuclear brain imaging specialist and New York Times bestselling author. In particular, he’s known for his work diagnosing and treating attention-deficit disorder (ADD). For anyone who has struggled with ADD, and for parents who suspect their child may have signs of ADD, getting acquainting with Dr. Amen’s work may provide some real comfort and help.

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Sticks and Stones

Posted on: September 29, 2021

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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never break me.”

Well, turns out the old children’s rhyme is sadly not true. Words — when used in an abusive manner — can and do hurt, demean, batter, abuse and even break a person. In psychological circles, the term is verbal abuse, and it’s all too common in a variety of relationships.

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Is There A Key To Truly Loving Another?

Posted on: September 23, 2021

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Depression… Described

Posted on: September 21, 2021

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Clearly conveying what you’re thinking or feeling is hard enough under the best of circumstances. But what happens when you’re feeling something you can’t explain, or even identify? That’s a problem central to mental health. Artists and creative individuals in particular struggle with the issue.

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The Truth About Bickering

Posted on: September 16, 2021

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#BeKind21

Posted on: September 13, 2021

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Talk about a win-win. Acts of kindness make the world a better place, pure and simple. But did you know that performing a simple kind act also boosts your physical and mental health? “Being kind is not only the right thing to do — it’s also good for our physical and mental health,” writes Zara Abrams in the American Psychological Association’s website. “Psychologists have found that performing acts of generosity boosts happiness and well-being and is even linked to physical health benefits, including lower blood pressure.”

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Sometimes You Just Have To Argue With A Narcissist

Posted on: September 9, 2021

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We all have to deal with some very annoying people. But people with narcissistic tendencies can be especially annoying. First off, it’s good to have an idea about narcissistic traits. In a previous blog, How To Spot A Narcissist, I pointed out that narcissists typically have absolute clarity about a situation, and an undying commitment to his or her opinion. Writing for Vice.com, Ramani Durvasula, PhD, adds to the description of a narcissist by saying, “it’s a pattern characterized by entitlement, arrogance, lack of empathy, validation and admiration seeking, sensitivity to criticism, grandiosity, poor insight, and difficulty controlling emotions, especially when frustrated or disappointed.”

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Marriage — ‘Masters’ vs. ‘Disasters’

Posted on: September 7, 2021

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How And Why To Rein In Your Emotions

Posted on: September 2, 2021

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News flash: these are emotional times. From dealing with differing views on the pandemic to incompatible political views, a lot of people are finding it hard to have a civil conversation without letting their emotions get the best of them. Writing for Healthline.com, Crystal Raypole says, “While emotions can have a helpful role in your daily life, they can take a toll on your emotional health and interpersonal relationships when they start to feel out of control.”

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The Beauty Of A Long-Term Relationship

Posted on: August 27, 2021

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Ah, people harbor a lot of romantic notions about long-term relationships. Young people especially are prone to romanticizing a lifetime commitment, with ideas about soulmates and happily ever after dancing in their minds. Beyond romanticized ideas about permanent commitments, though, they actually involve far deeper issues. Writing for Working Resources, psychologist and executive coach Dr. Maynard Brusman says, “People in lasting relationships tend to live longer and stay healthier, and they report that they experience more happiness in life. Statistics indicate that people in long-term partnerships report more rewarding social interactions and lower instances of alcohol and substance abuse. Maybe the most important aspect of living within a successful permanent relationship is that a person not only feels loved, but is also able to share love with somebody else.”

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The Insidious Problem Of Verbal Abuse

Posted on: August 24, 2021

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As Tolstoy’s opening lines to Anna Karenina attest, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Couples probably instinctively know this bit of wisdom more intimately than most. Happiness depends on a variety of factors — satisfy each one and happiness follows. When there’s an issue with any one factor, though, there’s trouble ahead.

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How To Replace A Bad Habit With A Good One

Posted on: August 20, 2021

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It’s just possible, to understate the case mildly, that you may have picked up some bad habits over the last 18 months. Aside from taking some comfort in recognizing that you are far from alone, it is also comforting to know that it is possible to change some of those habits. But where to begin?

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How — And Why — To Relax

Posted on: August 17, 2021

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As if 18 months of a pandemic has not been bad enough, now it seems like the news is filled with one grim headline after another. How to cope? One natural and surprisingly effective way is to simply… relax. Sound easy? Maybe — but it can actually take a concerted effort when the world is conspiring to keep you on edge.

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Overcoming The Fear That’s Holding You Back

Posted on: August 13, 2021

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Some of the oldest and wisest advice in the world comes in a remarkably simple command: Fear not. Unfortunately, what sounds so simple is also maddeningly difficult. Fear can not only hold us back, it can manifest itself in a variety of ways. Aisha Beau has explored this topic extensively, including a deep dive into Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Obstacles, and Create a Life You Love. This fascinating book’s thesis is that there are seven fear archetypes, and most people are in the grip — to a lesser or greater extent — of one or more types. The result is that people often do not act, held back by a fear they may not even recognize.

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Social Anxiety? This May Help.

Posted on: August 10, 2021

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Do you feel like your social skills have gotten a bit rusty over the last 18 months? You’re not alone. Anecdotally, therapists are noting a marked uptick in people seeking counseling for social anxiety. A growing amount of research is backing up that observation.

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Back-To-School Tips For Anxious Kids… And Parents

Posted on: August 6, 2021

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There are so many questions swirling about as we get our kids back to school this year. Will masks be required? If so, for unvaccinated kids only? That would mean all kids under 12, since there’s no vaccine available for under-12 children. But wait — aren’t there trials underway testing the vaccine for younger kids? It’s all enough to cause a bit of anxiety in kids — and parents!

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Tips For A Stress-Free Return To School

Posted on: August 3, 2021

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As a follow-up to our last blog post, How To Help Your Child Return To Old School Routines, we’d like to expand on the subject with a little more advice about preparing your child for the transition to in-person schooling. The reason for such attention to the subject is very simple: a year of online schooling and lack of social contact has real consequences.

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How To Help Your Child Return To Old School Routines

Posted on: July 30, 2021

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Summer is flying by, and that means that it’s almost time for kids to get back to school. But “back to school” in 2021 is unlike anything any parent has ever had to deal with. Most school districts are welcoming kids back for in-person learning, with a wide range of caveats. Masks? Social distancing?

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Nine Tips To Overcome Social Anxiety

Posted on: July 27, 2021

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People suffer from social anxiety for a variety of reasons, and they have done so for ages. Unfortunately, returning to socializing as the pandemic eases is no easy task even for people who do not experience extreme anxiety. No matter what level of anxiety you feel in social settings, though, and whether or not you experienced such anxiety pre-pandemic, there are ways to manage.

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Four Tips To Improve Your Romantic Relationship

Posted on: July 23, 2021

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It’s the rare couple who says, nope, our relationship is perfect — nothing to improve here. Add in the stress of forced changes in lifestyle over the last 18 months — from a hiatus in dining out to postponed vacations — and this just might be the ideal time to make a commitment to improve your romantic relationship. With that in mind, here are four tips t reignite the spark.

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Drinking Too Much? This May Help.

Posted on: July 20, 2021

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As if the pandemic hasn’t been bad enough by itself, for many people its side effects add an additional layer of trouble. Aside from flippant references to the “Covid 15” weight gain (which is sadly real), the data on increased alcohol consumption is also frightening.

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The Value And Strength Of ‘Character’

Posted on: July 13, 2021

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Have you ever wondered what “character” really is? The word “character” traces its roots to a Greek word that means to engrave. From the ancient Greek and then into Latin this led to the idea that, according to Aristotle, how we act over and over again engraves in our soul what becomes known as character. That’s why, when someone does something that people would not expect, they say they’re acting “out of character.”

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Have You Heard Of Dr. Spock?

Posted on: July 9, 2021

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It’s been 75 years since Dr. Benjamin Spock published The Common Sense Book of Baby and Childcare. Essentially, Dr. Spock broke from the tradition that said children required discipline, schedules and little affection. That advice struck a chord with the parents of the baby boom generation and the book sold more than 50 million copies.

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“Burnout” In 2021

Posted on: July 7, 2021

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Back in the good old pre-pandemic days, when we worked too hard or were simply juggling too many balls in the air, we might tell a friend we were “burned out.” Now, after a year and half of lockdowns, social distancing, online schooling and all the rest, “burnout” may not adequately capture our state of mind. Instead, psychologists are using a helpful phrase called “emotional exhaustion.”

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How To Overcome Negative Thoughts And Emotions

Posted on: July 1, 2021

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Books have been written about the power of positive thinking.  But the flip side of that, unfortunately, is also true in its own way: negative thinking can be powerful in its own destructive fashion. It can draw up unwanted memories and distressing flashbacks as well as generate a variety of upsetting emotions.

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How Narcissistic Mothers Affect Their Daughters

Posted on: June 30, 2021

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Our parents — they can nurture us as young children in so many healthy ways. On the flip side, they can also often unwittingly bequeath us with so many psychological problems. For example, women who had a narcissistic mother can find themselves dealing with variety of issues as an adult.  In relationships, they may find themselves constantly fearing abandonment. Looking to have their emotional needs met, they may often be left with a vague sense that something is missing. In seeking a partner, they may wonder why they’re continually entering controlling relationships, or struggling for power with their partner.

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An Update On The Science Of Narcissism

Posted on: June 28, 2021

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Post-Argument Repair Of A Relationship

Posted on: June 28, 2021

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What Is The Connection Between Narcissism And Mental Health?

Posted on: June 28, 2021

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The topic of narcissism is complex and heavily nuanced. Someone who experiences narcissistic abuse may also suffer from, for example, anxiety. Is there a connection between the two, and if so what is it?

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The Secret To Providing True Support For Your Partner

Posted on: June 25, 2021

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What’s the best way to help your partner when they’re overloaded at work or with life in general? That’s a no-brainer, you might say — it’s by jumping in and taking over chores, or fixing dinner, or bathing the kids. The list is endless. Not so fast, though. What seems perfectly intuitive may actually be off base.

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Is Your Partner Sabotaging Your Relationship? Are You?

Posted on: June 22, 2021

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The joy of a romantic relationship can be almost boundless. Why then, is that potential for joy so often checked — sabotaged, perhaps, by our own behavior? One answer lies in the fact that we are not blank slates. We all have a past that affects our current feelings and actions. More distressingly, it may be a past that we can’t remember.

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Was Dear Old Dad Really A Narcissist?

Posted on: June 17, 2021

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In a recent blog post — How To Spot A Narcissist — we talked about personality traits that might indicate a person was a bit of a narcissist. We focused mostly on identifying the tendency in friends and family in general. But what about one family member in particular — your father, whether he’s alive or not — who could have an outsize influence on you? How can you tell if your father is or was a narcissist, and how might that affect you?

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Helping Kids Transition Back To “Normal”

Posted on: June 14, 2021

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For most adults, handling the pandemic’s rules and regulations and changed lifestyle has been stressful, to put it mildly. But at least adults generally understand what a virus and its possible resultant illness are. That’s often not the case with kids.

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How To Spot A Narcissist

Posted on: June 8, 2021

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We all bring a lot of common sense to our relationships. If you’re pretty well grounded, you can probably spot someone who is, shall we say, “self oriented.” In everyday language you might hear someone at a party say, “Wow, that guy is so full of himself!”

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The Mystery Of Stockholm Syndrome

Posted on: June 7, 2021

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In a recent blog post, we wrote about a particular problem that couples may face to varying degrees. It’s a pattern of behavior known as a “trauma bond.” In this kind of a relationship, a bond develops out of a repeated cycle of abuse, devaluation, and positive reinforcement. This cycle can be especially insidious because a person often wants to make excuses for their partner or immediately forgive the abuse, especially if they apologize or alternate the abuse with kindness.

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Have You Heard Of A Trauma Bond?

Posted on: June 3, 2021

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Here’s a statement that should make most couples smile (if not laugh out loud): relationships are hard! Yes, even good relationships require work. Beyond normal relationships, though, there are a variety of problematic relationships that can be toxic. One in particular is known as a “trauma bond.”

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The Power Of Positive Affirmations

Posted on: May 28, 2021

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No matter your education, income, social standing or any other metric you care to name, the simple fact is that life can be tough. Dealing with that reality can at times cause anxiety. Add in the fact that we’re just coming to grips with a once-in-a-lifetime (we hope) pandemic, and it’s no wonder that record numbers of people are reporting feeling anxious or depressed.

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You’re Invited: Online Townhall – Mental Health In Focus

Posted on: May 25, 2021

Almost twenty percent of all adults in the U.S. live with a mental health condition. Unfortunately, the situation is only getting worse – especially after the year everyone has just lived through. Mental health issues include a wide variety of conditions. If you, a friend or family member deals with a mental health condition, please know — you are not alone.

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Can PTSD Lead To Love Avoidance?

Posted on: May 21, 2021

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The short answer is, absolutely yes. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) has a variety of features, including a tendency to pull away from certain situations or relationships. This behavior is actually quite rational. PTSD can cause a person to feel emotionally numb and involve feelings of rejection or abandonment.

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Love Addicts and Avoidants

Posted on: May 18, 2021

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Couples who experience less-than-acceptable intimacy in their relationship are hardly alone. Sometimes, one partner may lean toward being a “love addict” while the other is a “love avoidant.” Being one or the other is a problem. When Addict lives with Avoidant the stage is set for real trouble.

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When Bad News Rocks Your Kids’ World

Posted on: May 14, 2021

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You don’t have to search the news very hard to find some events that are outright shocking. In fact, if you have a news channel tuned in on the TV or a newspaper lying on the dinner table, it can actually be hard to avoid. If you’re a parent with younger children or even teens, you might sense that these events are really disturbing your kids’ world.

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What’s Up With Gen Z?

Posted on: May 11, 2021

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Gen Z is stressed out. That’s not just an opinion or casual observation. According to the American Psychological Association (APA) Stress in America survey, more than one-third of young adults ages 18 to 23 — the older members of Gen Z — said that their mental health was worse at the end of 2020 than at the same time in 2019. That’s a higher number than any other age group.

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Goodbye Quarantine – Hello Social Awkwardness

Posted on: May 7, 2021

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It’s not something most people probably thought about at the beginning of the pandemic or during the subsequent quarantine and lockdown measures. We’re talking about social awkwardness after being away from groups and social situations for an extended period of time. Of course, some very social people will fit right back into their routines. A lot of people, though, especially those who are more introverted or those with a touch of social anxiety, may find it difficult to just start mingling again.

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Pandemic-Induced Boozing: No Laughing Matter

Posted on: May 4, 2021

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There’s been a lot of dark humor expressed over the last year. It’s only natural — “gallows humor” is a hallmark of people in every culture in every age. You’ve probably seen it in something as fairly benign as people talking about the “Covid 15” — the 15 pounds that so many people have added as they’ve exercised less and eaten more while locked down.

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Change Is Inevitable – Seize The Opportunity

Posted on: April 30, 2021

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There has been much written about the challenges we’ve faced over the last year. With vaccines available to all adults in America, though, and life beginning to return to a semblance of normality, now may be the time to look beyond the challenges. Now may be the time to look for any opportunities inherent in the inevitable process of life’s transitions.

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