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When Bad News Rocks Your Kids’ World

Posted on: May 14, 2021

Family Counseling Insights brought to you by California Psychotherapeutic Resources, Inc.

You don’t have to search the news very hard to find some events that are outright shocking. In fact, if you have a news channel tuned in on the TV or a newspaper lying on the dinner table, it can actually be hard to avoid. If you’re a parent with younger children or even teens, you might sense that these events are really disturbing your kids’ world.

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What’s Up With Gen Z?

Posted on: May 11, 2021

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Gen Z is stressed out. That’s not just an opinion or casual observation. According to the American Psychological Association (APA) Stress in America survey, more than one-third of young adults ages 18 to 23 — the older members of Gen Z — said that their mental health was worse at the end of 2020 than at the same time in 2019. That’s a higher number than any other age group.

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Goodbye Quarantine – Hello Social Awkwardness

Posted on: May 7, 2021

Individual Counseling Insights brought to you by California Psychotherapeutic Resources, Inc.

It’s not something most people probably thought about at the beginning of the pandemic or during the subsequent quarantine and lockdown measures. We’re talking about social awkwardness after being away from groups and social situations for an extended period of time. Of course, some very social people will fit right back into their routines. A lot of people, though, especially those who are more introverted or those with a touch of social anxiety, may find it difficult to just start mingling again.

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Getting Back To Normal? Not So Fast.

Posted on: April 27, 2021

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For the last several months the idea of getting back to normal has been like a tantalizing dream. But as more and more people became vaccinated that dream has steadily turned into reality. Many people, though, especially kids, have felt an odd sense of anxiety as they returned to once-normal activities. What’s going on?

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Healthy Ways To Manage Stress – For Your Kids’ Sake

Posted on: April 20, 2021

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You may not often think of your family as such, but it is actually an intricate social system. Naturally, there are both positives and negatives that go along with the system. For example, in an article on the American Psychological Association (APA) website, it is noted that “73% of parents report family responsibilities as a significant source of stress.” Reflecting the intricacy of the family social network, the same research also found that “more than two-thirds of parents think their stress level has slight to no impact on their child’s stress level. However, only 14% of tweens and teens reported that they are not bothered when their parent is stressed.”

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Grieving In The Age Of Covid

Posted on: April 13, 2021

Individual Counseling Insights brought to you by California Psychotherapeutic Resources, Inc.

When people think of grieving, they often picture someone who has lost a loved one. Mourning someone who has died is certainly one type of grieving. Also, if someone has a family member or close friend who has died during the various stages of lockdown over the past year, grieving is made even more complicated. But there are other forms of grieving as well, in response to the many types of loss we’ve experienced during the pandemic.

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Sleepless Nights? There Are Simple, Effective Ways To Cope

Posted on: March 16, 2021

Individual Counseling Insights brought to you by California Psychotherapeutic Resources, Inc.

It’s been virtually a year to the day since America and, indeed, the whole world began reacting to the pandemic. Problems associated with lockdowns, social distancing and all the other efforts aimed at stopping the spread of Covid-19 have been well documented. One little discussed problem, though, is a mundane but very important one: how to get a good night’s rest when you’re filled with anxiety.

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Communicating With Your Teens – A Hidden Opportunity

Posted on: March 12, 2021

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The downsides to the pandemic — and there have been many — are widely talked about. But are there also opportunities hidden in our response to life during the last year? One may be the chance to communicate more often and more deeply with your teenagers. The stress that has arisen from coping with a restricted lifestyle may give parents a welcome reason to begin a conversation. Feeling bad? Let’s talk about it.

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Teaching Your Kids To Properly Manage Stress

Posted on: February 26, 2021

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Family dynamics are fascinating. Parents in particular have an effect on their children that they may not even realize. If they are experiencing stress, for example, their reaction to and methods of coping with that stress are probably observed by their children — and eventually imitated — even if the parents are not aware of this dynamic.

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Talking To Kids About Covid

Posted on: February 23, 2021

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With millions of people having contracted Covid-19, it’s very possible that you know someone personally who has been affected. Although adults generally understand the situation pretty well, it’s quite another story with kids. Depending on their age and their relationship with the person who has the disease, they may not clearly understand what’s happening. That may result in anxiety that affects them in different ways.

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The Timeless Benefit Of Unstructured Play

Posted on: February 19, 2021

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For the last year people have been coping with having their normal routines upended. A lot of people are adjusting by simply using their common sense. For those who prefer to seek out expert advice on ways to cope, there have been plenty of options — newspapers, TV shows and websites are filled with articles on adjusting to pandemic lifestyles.

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Books To Ease Your Kids’ Anxiety

Posted on: January 8, 2021

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It’s a fair guess that back in March of last year not many people would have predicted we’d enter 2021 struggling with another surge in the pandemic and further shelter-in-place orders. Maybe that’s a bit of a blessing. How many people would have said, “That’s fine, I can ‘socially distance’ for a year or so no problem.”

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Six Tips For Comforting Your Kids In Trying Times

Posted on: January 5, 2021

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Now that 2021 is here, many people might have expected the stress they felt in 2020 to simply fade away. As we’re quickly discovering, that’s not happening. As a surge in cases of Covid-19 follows the holidays, and as people anxiously await the rollout of the various vaccines, almost everyone realizes we’re still living with daily anxiety.

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8 Ways Teachers Can Help Students In These Strange Times

Posted on: December 21, 2020

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It’s no secret that schoolchildren across the country are experiencing varying levels of success with online learning. One key to successful learning is teacher involvement and expertise — no surprise there. “Now more than ever, teachers are an important part of facilitating student learning, well-being, and growth,” according to an article on the website of the American Psychological Association (APA).

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Do You Have Family Members Taking Covid Risks?

Posted on: December 15, 2020

It may be hard to believe but here’s one more issue creating divisiveness among families: Covid safety precautions. It might be extended family members gathering for a Sunday dinner shoulder to shoulder. Or a college kid out partying while still intending to come home for the holidays. Or an otherwise level-headed relative who simply has a terrible case of quarantine fatigue.

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For Families Torn Apart By Politics, Election Fallout Is Just Beginning

Posted on: November 19, 2020

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Are some members of your family on one side of the political spectrum, while others are on the opposite side? Welcome to family life in America, 2020. Brittany Wong, writing on HuffPost.com, has an insightful article on this exact subject.

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Relationship Conflicts – Where Did the Love Go?

Posted on: November 10, 2020

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Relationships are seldom as simple as we would like. They bring out our needs, anxieties, and conflicts with people from our past – parents, friends, and former partners.

When we enter into a relationship we expect to be loved just for being who we are. A relationship should provide a safe zone where our partner values us for expressing our own uniqueness. This is a simple expectation. Indeed, this is the way most relationships start out. Why, then, does it seem so hard to maintain this ideal, blissful state of unconditional love over time?

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Family Dysfunction – The Children of Substance Abusers

Posted on: March 4, 2020

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Countless millions of adults in this country had a parent with a drinking or drug problem. A brief look at some of the history of the 1900’s can clarify this phenomenon. Prohibition was repealed in 1933, and this tended to validate, or at least give some justification for, the consumption of alcohol by the World War II generation. Alcohol was associated with good times and the good life for what is sometimes called the “drinking generation” who lived through WWII, the survivors of whom are most gone now or at the very last stages of the life span. Their children, the Baby Boomers, who are now in middle age and entering older age, tended to use not only alcohol but drugs as well. And again, they often associated the use of these substances with good times. This substance-abusing legacy was often passed to their own children, who are now in the their thirties and forties. Unfortunately, and estimates of the numbers involved are vague, a certain proportion of those who use alcohol or drugs become addicted to these substances.

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Resisting Violence in Children

Posted on: October 28, 2019

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Families Can Do Their Share to Address Violence in Their Children and Emerge Stronger in the Process

Violence in children is a complicated issue with many causes. It is easy to point fingers at some of the more obvious potential culprits. For example, television provides a steady diet of violence. It has been estimated that by the time children turn 18 they have been exposed to 40,000 deaths on TV, usually with no mention of the grieving that families endure when a loved one has died. Similarly rock music, and rap music most of all, often contains lyrics explicitly promulgating killing and other violence. Video games seem to go a step further – they not only are violent but the player of the game is also the shooter. Movies glorify violent deaths and revenge. The Internet is filled with websites carrying violent themes and even sites that tell the viewer how to make bombs. Guns are easy to get and have become a symbol of rebellion and power among some youth. Our schools have become segregated with cliques who intimidate each other – the jocks versus the goths, for example – sometimes in brutal ways. Bullies make some children afraid of going to school.

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Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

Posted on: February 6, 2018

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Most people with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder don’t know they have it. Indeed, the disorder was not recognized until the 1980’s, and it was not until the 1990’s that the recognition of adult ADHD was established. However, it is a condition that can have a significant impact on the way a person functions in the world. Unfortunately, Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder is poorly named. It is not so much a disorder as it is a difference in the way some people process information and focus their attention. And to call it a deficit fails to recognize the many strengths that these people have. ADHD, however, is perhaps a better name than the old word for it – minimal brain dysfunction. (more…)

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Dealing With Controlling People

Posted on: January 24, 2018

Family Counseling insights brought to you by Westlake Village-based California Psychotherapeutic Resources, Inc.

Control, like most facets of human behavior, is probably best experienced in moderation. At one end of the spectrum, control is a positive, adaptive tool. For example, control over prolonged and constant chaos in our lives is usually a good thing. At the other end, control can be seen as negative. People who are over-controlled to the point of being unable to feel or express emotion can find life’s expected turmoils to be difficult or even impossible to handle. (more…)

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Actively Listening

Posted on: December 31, 2017

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Active Communication Requires One Person to Talk and the Other to Listen… and Both to Do Their Parts Well

Listening is the other half of communication. Our first thought, when we think about communication, may be to consider the speaker’s ability to convey ideas effectively. What we often forget is that without a listener the speaker may as well be talking to the wind. Just as effective speaking is an acquired skill, so is good listening. Some do it better than others. But all of us can learn to enrich our own listening skills. (more…)

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