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Six Ways To Enhance Your Mental Health

Posted on: May 25, 2022

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Most everyone knows the fundamental rules for healthy living. Eat a balanced diet with lots of fruits and vegetables. Exercise regularly. Get enough sleep. Don’t smoke and drink alcohol moderately if at all.

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7 Things You Should Never Say To Your Partner

Posted on: May 20, 2022

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Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a short time or years, you’ve probably learned which compliments your partner responds well to. “Wow, you look great in that dress!” “I love when you give me a hug for no reason.”

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Authoritative vs. Authoritarian and other Parenting Styles

Posted on: May 17, 2022

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Many young people have somewhat of a revelation when they first become parents. Even if they’ve been reading books or taking classes on parenting skills, they soon realize that it’s more complex than they possibly could have imagined. For many, a worry creeps into mind — how am I affecting my child, and is it in a good way? That’s when the revelation occurs — wow, how did my parents affect me?  

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Creating Your Life’s Master Plan

Posted on: May 14, 2022

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Ask any professional or business owner if they think a business plan is necessary for success, and most would answer in an instant – of course! Ask these same people if they have an equivalent plan for success in their own lives, though, and you might get a very different answer.

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Signs A Conversation Hog Is Really A Narcissist

Posted on: May 13, 2022

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Can’t Forget Your Ex? This May Be Why.

Posted on: May 11, 2022

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Looking for a long-term relationship? If so, then it’s almost inevitable that you will experience breakups as you search for someone to settle down with. Although emotionally painful, a breakup is generally something people deal with, healing and growing in the process.

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Which Parenting Resources Do Psychologists Recommend?

Posted on: May 9, 2022

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Google is great for general searches, and for searching specialized subjects if you’re wiling to take the time to research the results. But there’s always that nagging feeling about whether you should trust the results of an online search.

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Signs You’re On Your Way To A Flaming Burnout

Posted on: May 7, 2022

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Take an informal poll of your friends and see what the number one answer is to the typical greeting, How’re you doing? You may or may not be surprised to find so many people answer, Busy!

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Using Affirmations In Anxious Times

Posted on: May 6, 2022

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One look at the news and it’s easy to understand why anxiety is hanging in the air like a dark cloud. Fortunately, there is a way to help ease the anxiety: using positive affirmations on a daily basis.

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Parenting 101

Posted on: May 4, 2022

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There’s an old saying that it’s a pity kids don’t come with an owner’s manual. For new parents,  it isn’t long before they realize that’s more true than funny. Many people develop their parenting skills with on-the-job training, combining a bit of how they remember being raised with a bit of what they’re read and maybe adding some advice from friends who already have children. There’s also no shortage of how-to books, beginning with the classics such as Dr. Spock’s original to a shelfful of modern-day publications based on the latest research.

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The Joy Of Being Joyful

Posted on: May 2, 2022

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We could all use a little upbeat news these days, couldn’t we? Well, this isn’t exactly a news flash, but it’s true nevertheless: being joyful is good for you! Let’s start with the people around you. When you’re happy and exuding love of life, everyone from your partner to your children to strangers on the street find that you’re a delight to be around. In a virtuous cycle, that in turn makes you even happier.

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The Root Cause Of A Couple’s Conflict

Posted on: April 30, 2022

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How To Avoid Dating A Narcissist

Posted on: April 29, 2022

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There aren’t many upsides to having dated a narcissist, but here’s one you might not have thought of: at least now you know how to spot one. In reality, there are many red flags to watch out for. For example, as we pointed out in a previous blog article, narcissists probably do not use a lot of “I” language, as common sense might suggest. Instead, they make authoritative statements about the way things are.

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Turning Dreams Into Reality

Posted on: April 27, 2022

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“Ambition” is such a wonderfully complex concept. It begins with something like desire. You imagine or see something you’d like to be, at the same time developing a desire to be that way, then add in a commitment to take action. Ambitious people have the ability to take that final step consistently and to good effect.

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Why People Ruminate — And How To Stop

Posted on: April 25, 2022

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For years people have quoted Yogi Berra’s famous and hilarious remark: It’s déjà vu all over again. What’s not so funny, though, is when a single thought, or string of thoughts, gets stuck in your head and just keep going round and round. There’s actually a name for this condition — it’s called rumination and it can have a variety of negative effects. Writing for Healthline, Erica Cirono says, “A habit of rumination can be dangerous to your mental health, as it can prolong or intensify depression as well as impair your ability to think and process emotions. It may also cause you to feel isolated and can, in reality, push people away.”

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How To Cope With A Toxic Parent

Posted on: April 22, 2022

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At some point in young adulthood, some people have a revelation: one or both of their parents are toxic. More precisely, they discover their relationship with their parent is unhealthy to the point of being dysfunctional. This discovery may occur during the college years, but much more likely, it may occur as a young adult sets out on their own, establishing a career, getting married, having children.

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Soulmates… and Other Myths

Posted on: April 20, 2022

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You’ve more than likely heard the term “soulmate.” You may even firmly believe that there is an “other” out there who is your soulmate. But do you know how long the term, and the concept, have been around? One of the first instances of its use is in a letter from the 1820s by the English poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge: “To be happy in Married Life… you must have a Soul-mate.”

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Essential Reading For Success

Posted on: April 18, 2022

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Some books stand the test of time. Take the bestseller Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill. He spent 20 years researching 40 millionaires, trying to find commonalities that would in essence reveal a formula for success. In 1937, Hill published the result of his work, and for nearly a century now budding entrepreneurs and professionals have turned to Think and Grow Rich for inspiration and motivation. During that time, the book has sold over 100 million copies. Yes, you read that right — 100 million copies.

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Easter Hallelujah

Posted on: April 16, 2022

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The Perfect Is The Enemy Of The Good

Posted on: April 15, 2022

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Striving to do the best you can at every job you undertake seems like a good thing, at least on the surface. After all, the old aphorism seems to be true: Any job worth doing is worth doing right. But when does striving to do your best turn into an unhealthy quest for perfection? And if you’re in an introspective state of mind, you may also ask yourself what drives you in that quest.

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Two Essential Qualities of Enterprising People

Posted on: April 13, 2022

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Motivational speakers come from a variety of backgrounds and offer a variety of visions. None, though, is more renowned than Jim Rohn, who began working as a stock clerk in Sears and rose to become one of America’s foremost business philosophers. While he was recognized for mentoring young and upcoming speakers — one of his proteges, Tony Robbins, went on to a pretty successful career of his own — Jim really stood out for his simple wisdom. His quotes were succinct and memorable: “Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.”

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How To Banish Mindsets That Increase Anxiety

Posted on: April 11, 2022

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A quick look at the headlines in the news can be a little shocking these days. Inflation. War. The never-ending pandemic. A sane person might be tempted to say — if you’re not filled with anxiety then you don’t understand what’s going on. As the old joke goes, even paranoid people have enemies.

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Practicing The Fine Art Of Listening

Posted on: April 9, 2022

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From the time we learn to talk, many people find the opposite ability hard to do: listen. It soon becomes apparent, though, that listening is crucial to our development. In school, we need to listen in order learn. Our parents incessantly demand that we listen. By the time we reach adulthood, we’ve settled into our behavior — being either a “good listener” or maybe not-so-good listener (and we may have a partner who often reminds us of our tendency).

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How To Change A Habit Unique To Your Personality

Posted on: April 8, 2022

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Have you ever picked up one of the popular best-selling self-help books that promise to make you more effective at work? Or maybe you’ve gravitated toward one offering advice on honing your leadership skills. In any case, did it occur to you as you poured over the book that it seemed to be speaking to a single audience? That is, it seemed to presume that all readers thought about the world in the same way, were capable of imagining solutions based on a similar set of skills or, for that matter, possessed the same basic capabilities.

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Harnessing The Power Of Relational Intelligence

Posted on: April 6, 2022

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Tips For Improving Sibling Relationships

Posted on: April 4, 2022

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There are few images of family life more touching than the sight of young siblings losing their minds happily playing together. Most parents — and people in general who grew up with a sibling — intuitively recognize the depth of that relationship. It’s odd, then, that the amount of research dedicated to sibling relationships pales in comparison to other familial relationships.

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Is Your Relationship Destined To Succeed?

Posted on: April 2, 2022

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Have you ever tried to describe a couple of your friends as they begin to form a romantic relationship? Odds are, the words “rational” and “reasonable” were not part of your description. Nope, oxytocin — the love hormone — is flowing along with other happy hormones like dopamine and serotonin.

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Making The Pitch To Work From Home

Posted on: March 30, 2022

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After two years of scrambling to keep up with changing corporate policy, office workers may have discovered something: You like working from home! If that’s the case, now may be the time to make a pitch for permanent work-from-home status.

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How To Cope With Pandemic-Inspired Grief

Posted on: March 29, 2022

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Dealing with the pandemic for two years has affected people in a variety of ways. Get into a casual discussion with friends and you’ll probably come up with a long list of issues you’ve dealt with. Anxiety. Stress. Boredom. On a more serious note — substance abuse. Suicidal thoughts. But here’s one that you may have missed: grief.

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Tapping Into The Potential Of True Conversation

Posted on: March 28, 2022

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Overcoming Trauma Through The Miracle of Neuroplasticity

Posted on: March 26, 2022

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Psychologists and psychiatrists have long understood that people have fairly predictable responses to events and situations that cause deep suffering. Whether it is something seemingly avoidable such as spousal abuse or something ultimately unavoidable such as the death of a loved one, people react with observable emotional patterns. In recent years and even decades, increasingly sophisticated scientific study of the brain is identifying the neurological causes of our human reactions.

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How Mindfulness Can Deepen Your Romantic Relationship

Posted on: March 25, 2022

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Looking for the key to happiness? One practice that helps is living in a state of mindfulness. A growing body of research points to how intentionally living in the moment heightens your awareness, improves your mental health and promotes personal happiness. That’s why mindfulness techniques, including meditation and yoga, are getting more and more attention among the general public.

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Dancing Between The Raindrops

Posted on: March 23, 2022

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There’s an old saying about people who seem to live a charmed life: “they dance between the raindrops.” The image of someone so lucky that even rain doesn’t touch them is a fanciful one. Virtually everyone experiences hardships of all kinds — loss of a job, death of a loved one, a serious health problem.

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Stressed Out? How You React Has Repercussions.

Posted on: March 21, 2022

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There’s been no shortage of gallows humor over the last two years. A best-selling T-shirt was illustrated with an animated coffee mug running with a baton, handing it off to a glass of wine. Yes, we can laugh at the idea of coping by turning to loads of caffeine and alcohol. But there’s a not-too-subtle truth underneath the humor — we’re all a bit stressed out. And maybe a lot stressed out.

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Just Say No To The Amygdala

Posted on: March 19, 2022

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In our everyday life we usually go merrily along, making mundane decisions about shopping or taking the kids to school or getting ready for work with hardly a second thought. All along we think we’re freely making our choices based on what’s best for the moment. But “free will” is more than just a topic for philosophy courses in college. In reality, we are often driven by forces we rarely think about.

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How Does Your Narcissistic Partner See You?

Posted on: March 16, 2022

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Do you suspect that someone you’re dating or, worse yet, your long-term partner has narcissistic tendencies? Understanding how a narcissist behaves is the first step toward confirming (or, hopefully, ruling out) that your partner is a narcissist. There are signs to look for. As we’ve said in another blog post (“How To Spot A Narcissist”), “Research has revealed there is virtually no connection between I-talk and sub-clinical narcissism. So, if narcissists aren’t rambling on about themselves, what do they talk about? Narcissists may actually talk about themselves less, preferring to make authoritative statements about the way things are rather than how they feel… If you want to spot a narcissist… look for someone who has absolute clarity about a situation, and an undying commitment to his or her opinion.”

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Post-Pandemic Help For Those With ADHD

Posted on: March 12, 2022

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After living with the pandemic for two years, nearly everyone has stories about how it affected them personally — and how it affected their loved ones. Unexpectedly enough, one striking aspect of these stories is how much they differed in perspective. Some parents who coped with remote learning reported that their kids adapted pretty well and pretty easily. Others could hardly contain their frustration at how chaotic the whole experience was.

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War: Balancing Empathy and Anxiety

Posted on: March 8, 2022

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The images we see daily are absolutely heartbreaking. Many people are reeling from the news out of Ukraine and the descriptions of a war they thought could never happen. But it is happening, and it’s a delicate task to balance empathy with anxiety all the while avoiding psychological trauma. Writing for the American Psychological Association website, Zara Abrams says “It’s normal to feel distressed about what’s going on and to closely follow the conflict. While staying informed is important, research shows that overexposure to media during a crisis is linked with worse mental and physical health down the line.”

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Burned Out At Work? This May Help.

Posted on: March 2, 2022

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For ambitious and motivated people, work and career can be an enormous source of satisfaction — and stress. Over the last two years that simple fact has become even more evident as the lines between work and personal life have been blurred for many people. Striving to advance your career while learning how to navigate online meetings and generally coping with the pandemic has taken a toll.

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Books To Help Your Kids Thrive

Posted on: February 25, 2022

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Recent studies have been confirming what a lot of parents have been observing first-hand: Kids are really struggling with anxiety, anger and other issues from the experience of the last two years. You may not be able to eliminate the causes of these emotions, but you can help your kids deal with them properly — and fortunately there is help available for that task. Writing for the website, Puppy Dogs and Ice Cream, Sara Darnell says “Many psychologists have turned to children’s books to teach young readers how to deal with their emotions.” Which books are recommended for children? Darnell has compiled the following list.

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Can’t Get Away From Your Email?

Posted on: February 22, 2022

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Do you have a love-hate relationship with email? Is the “love” part of the relationship sadly diminishing? Take heart — you’re not alone. Inboxes overflowing with half-read emails can stress anybody out. The problem is, most of us still need email. Deciding not to use email at work is not a choice we get to make. Creating a personal email account helps keep you organized, but even your personal email inbox is probably loaded with news and sales pitches you don’t care about along with, ugh, spam.

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What’s Really Happening When Your Partner Criticizes You?

Posted on: February 15, 2022

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Easy Not-So-Typical Mental Health Habits

Posted on: February 12, 2022

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Once again, there is light at the end of the tunnel. This time, though, it looks like it might be the real thing, and not another version of the pandemic locomotive coming at us. Virtually anyone (except for those under five years old) who wants to be vaccinated can be, free of charge. What’s more, the Omicron variant is in rapid decline, and — cross your fingers — there’s no new variant on the horizon. So, with almost all of 2022 still ahead of us, now may be the perfect time to really commit to making this a wonderful, productive year.

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Nine Keys To A Successful Relationship

Posted on: February 8, 2022

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A lot of good things happen during the infatuation stage of a relationship. When you spend time with someone you’ve fallen in love with, your brain rewards you by releasing high levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine. They give you a sense of euphoria, and you may notice yourself feeling a bit giddy and full of energy. You might even be so infatuated you can hardly eat or sleep.

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Suffering From Covid Shame?

Posted on: February 5, 2022

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As if coming down with Covid weren’t bad enough, a lot of people are feeling something else along with their physical ailments — shame. Especially for people who felt like they were being responsible — getting vaccinated and boosted — contracting a “breakthrough” case comes along with a feeling that somehow they just weren’t careful enough.

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Gen Z: Enduring A Pandemic Experience All Their Own

Posted on: February 1, 2022

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Think back two years ago to the start of the pandemic and you may remember a sentiment that quickly began circulating: We’re all in this together. Although that is indeed true, experience has shown something else: large groups of people are experiencing the event differently. Middle-age professionals telecommuting to work have a far different experience than one of their parents in assisted living. A stay-at-home parent supervising grade-school kids on a computer is dealing with a variety of challenges their high-schooler can hardly relate to — and vice versa.

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How To Keep Pandemic News From Overwhelming You

Posted on: January 28, 2022

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It’s easy if also painful to measure one aspect of the misery that the pandemic has spread across America over the last two years: by counting the number of lives lost. But there’s another aspect to the misery that’s much harder to quantify: the toll on our collective mental health. Medical doctors and psychologists report everything from alcohol abuse to depression is on the rise. And that doesn’t even begin to touch on the ill effects children are enduring.

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Don’t Worry, Be Happy. Really?

Posted on: January 25, 2022

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When things aren’t looking so peachy, many people respond with what may seem like helpful advice. Look on the bright side. Count your blessings. Keep a positive thought. But is that really good advice?

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Can You Spot An Emotionally Intelligent Person?

Posted on: January 21, 2022

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In the wonderful Disney film, Inside Out, the plot revolves around five emotions running the minds of the people they inhabit. The emotions are joy, sadness, anger, fear and disgust, and the movie provides parents with abundant material to get conversations going with their children about identifying their own emotions.

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Breaking Bad Habits — Creating Good Ones

Posted on: January 18, 2022

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It’s mid-January and statistics say that by now nearly half of us have broken our New Year’s resolutions. Really? What went wrong? Although many people might think it’s a matter of will power — or, more precisely, a lack of will power — the answer might be a bit more complicated than that. Writing for Healthline, Stacey McLachlan says that the problem is we’re not practicing self-directed neuroplasticity. Although the term sounds like a mouthful, it’s really based on common sense. “Self-directed neuroplasticity is when you intentionally rewire your brain to create positive habits,” says McLachlan. “People do this primarily through active reflection.”

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Have You Heard Of CBT?

Posted on: January 14, 2022

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CBT is “cognitive behavioral therapy.” Recent studies indicate that it just may be the most effective form of psychotherapy currently in practice. Writing for Healthline, Crystal Raypole says that “CBT aims to help you identify and explore the ways your emotions and thoughts can affect your actions. Once you notice these patterns, you can begin learning to reframe your thoughts in a more positive and helpful way. Unlike many other therapy approaches, CBT doesn’t focus much on talking about your past.”

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Is It Possible To Find The Perfect Relationship?

Posted on: January 11, 2022

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The Number One Predictor Of Divorce

Posted on: January 6, 2022

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It’s fair to say that very few people plan to get divorced as they’re getting married. Wouldn’t it be nice, then, if there were some way to predict who might be likely to get divorced, and why?

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Combating The Ill Effects of Uncertainty

Posted on: January 4, 2022

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Feeling a bit of déjà vu as we enter 2022? Didn’t we kick off 2021 the same way, with high hopes that the pandemic was rapidly receding? Now — having thoroughly absorbed the new language of the pandemic —we find ourselves watching case rates for Omicron rising fast and wondering if there’s another new variant right around the corner.

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Should You Resolve To Call It Quits?

Posted on: December 30, 2021

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Ah, the new year is practically here, time for self-reflection and resolutions. Instead of resolving to lose the same old five pounds that always seems to come back, how about taking a fresh look at your relationship? Are there some red flags you’ve been ignoring because it’s just too comfortable to keep on keepin’ on? Maybe it’s time to be honest with yourself and resolve to end the relationship if that would be better.

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Helping To Control What You Can Control

Posted on: December 28, 2021

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If there’s one thing most everyone has learned over the last two years, it’s that no one is completely in control of their circumstances. The only thing we can control is our response to those circumstances. Viktor Frankl, renowned psychiatrist and philosopher, made this point beautifully and succinctly when he commented on his time in a Nazi concentration camp: “Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.”

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Beat The Holiday Blues

Posted on: December 21, 2021

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The holidays are a wonderful time of year. Whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Christmas or Kwanzaa, and however you celebrate the coming of the New Year, December is a joyous time to celebrate with family and friends. Joyous, that is, unless it’s not.

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The Best Career Advice of 2021

Posted on: December 17, 2021

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One thing we’ve all had to be over the last couple of years is “adaptable.” Whether you’ve had to figure out how to breathe properly through a mask while you work out in the gym, or juggle simultaneous online school sessions for two kids, the more creative and adaptable you’ve been, the better.

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Resolve — To Be A Better Partner

Posted on: December 14, 2021

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Can you believe it – barely over two weeks to the New Year. If you’re tired of making a New Year’s resolution to lose weight or get to the gym more, how about this one: resolve to be a better partner. One surprisingly easy and effective way to do that is through verbal affirmations and simple open communication. Of course, if your affirmation involves more than a compliment, you have to really mean it. Which is why I’m here for you carries more impact than You look great tonight — the former involves an implicit offer to act.

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Coping With The Reality Of Racial Trauma

Posted on: December 10, 2021

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All people have an infinite number of things in common. One thing in particular everyone shares is an array of feelings caused by stress. Differences between people, however, arise in regard to the cause of their stress. People of color, for example, can feel stress based on how they perceive people reacting to them simply because of their color. The situation is exacerbated when someone is the victim of verbal abuse or even physical violence because of their color.

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