Are you in the camp of people who believe in love at first sight? If you are, then this video is worth your time. If you’re not in that camp, that you think relationships and dating in general are a lot more complicated than finding “the one,” then this video is really for you.

In this video, Mel Robbins — host of a hugely popular YouTube channel and podcast — sits down with Logan Ury for an insightful and valuable interview for anyone who is dating or in the process of developing a long-term romantic relationship. Ury is a behavior scientist, dating expert, host of Netflix’s new dating series “The Later Daters” and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge. She offers advice based on abundant science-backed research.

Looking for a sample of Ury’s perspective on dating? Listen to how she begins the interview: “Dating is a skill. We’re born how to love but not knowing how to date. Great relationships are built — they’re not discovered. If you really understand that you can build the relationship of your dreams, then it takes the pressure off of finding ‘the perfect person.’

“I think where people get into trouble is where they think if I keep on dating eventually I’ll find someone with no problems. You should switch that to the mindset of What are problems I can deal with? There’s baggage that I can deal with and baggage that I can’t and you get to choose.”