From the time we’re born, physically touching the ones we love is as natural as breathing. In a virtuous cycle, that natural draw is especially important in a long-term romantic relationship: you wish to physically touch the person you’re intimate with and that touch enhances intimacy. Although we may not think of it as such, touch almost acts as a barometer for the relationship: a decline in intimacy may lead to a decline in touching and vice versa — a decline in touching may lead to a decline in intimacy.

These actions and reactions are more than emotional or psychological. They’re physiological. Writing for the health and wellness website Bloom, Brody Wooddell says, “Physical touch has been shown to have a direct impact on our nervous system, helping to reduce stress and promote feelings of relaxation. When we engage in physical touch, such as hugging or cuddling, our bodies release oxytocin, a hormone that helps to regulate our stress response and promotes feelings of well-being.”

The benefits don’t end there. “When we engage in physical touch, our bodies release dopamine and serotonin, two neurotransmitters that are associated with feelings of happiness and pleasure,” Wooddell says. “Intimacy can also help to reduce symptoms of anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions. Studies have found that people who engage in regular physical touch are less likely to experience symptoms of anxiety and depression and report higher levels of life satisfaction.”

With all the positive effects associated with physically touching, you may intrigued by the idea of putting “more touching” on your to-do list. Of course your partner might wonder what’s going on if you suddenly change your habits so it’s best to kick off your plan with a little communication — tell them what you’ve learned about the benefits of physical touch and ask what they think. Also keep in mind that you’ll enjoy the benefits even with small changes — deciding to hold hands while you watch a movie together, for example.

If you’re mindful about making physical touch a daily habit with your partner, you may be amazed at the power of that virtuous cycle — more touching increases intimacy which leads to a desire for more touching. Enjoy.